I will say that the idea of ‘mutual abuse’ is a flawed one and I don’t think anybody should be giving it credibility. it establishes a precedent wherein those who stand up to or attempt to fight their abusers in some way somehow become a guilty party
much better to simply say you don’t know the facts of a situation than it is to say both parties can be victims of the other’s terror at once…
and I mean this very strongly like hitting your abuser doesn’t suddenly make you the abuser or a co-abuser. abuse is about who has the control and the power to leverage it
okay I promise the last reblog but: it’s important to mention that abusers thrive off of this very idea. baiting a victim into retaliation in order to frame their abuse as part of a mutual brawl later, or to coax their victim into forgiving them because ‘we both behaved badly, we lost our temper’ etc is not uncommon. it’s a great way of making their victim doubt the reality that they’re experiencing abuse
to be honest i feel like discussions about Representation need to come second to discussions about dissolving corporate media monopolies. i don’t care how diverse the characters in a show are if the system in place still demands that art has to be palatable for the masses and filtered thru a corporate assembly line just to exist. its crazy. its craaazy how far people will go to defend the honor of corporate media. i guarantee whatever Creatives are responsible for the representation in your favorite piece of corporate media could have made something better, realer, and more valuable if they didn’t have to sanitize their shit for the mass market. i guarantee there are a million people out there who would make stuff you would love but the fact that media is treated as a product and not an art form means theyll never get a chance to do anything at all.
i’ve never watched bridgerton and never plan to but i DO watch a lot of historical costumers on youtube and it’s very very frustrating to me how, after every season when the actresses give interviews about the pain they were in while wearing corsets during filming, soooooo many historical costumers come out with thinkpiece video essays about how corsets WEREN’T torture devices and how THEY wear corsets all the time and they’re SOOOOO comfortable so these actresses are just ~*~*feeding into the narrative of corsets being evil*~*~ with these interviews. because like. yes, a properly fitted corset should not cause pain to the wearer. but also, no, these actresses aren’t complaining about the corsets because they’ve been conditioned to think corsets are torture devices, they’re complaining because they were in real pain and were injured on set. because the corsets they were made to wear were not properly fitted. it’s an issue of workers rights, where studios don’t care about the physical comfort of their actors and don’t give costuming departments the proper time and funding to make safe, comfortable garments, and personally i think that’s wayyyyy more important in this conversation than defending the corset’s reputation lol
